Monday, March 21, 2016

Live your best life

Few days back was Women’s Day and it came with all the bells and whistles and everyone was so compelled to say or do something that acknowledged the day. I guess as soon as the clock stuck midnight, women got back to their favorite game of juggling – cooking, cleaning, laundry etc. at home or if at work – calls, meetings, mails and the innumerable to do lists. And the worst part is she is always guilt ridden and has this fear of being a bad mother/wife/daughter even if she is doing things much better than her men counterparts. Funny thing is I don’t understand why people think 15% discount in the neighborhood beauty parlor or playing a women only game can empower women!!!  Same way I don’t understand how men and women can be equal when our physical attributes, sensibilities inclinations and emotions are so very different! Anyways that's for another time.

Now I just felt like jotting down these points which I felt is important to move ahead when women get hit by emotional exhaustion (yeh most women do). Maybe a few applies to men as well J

1)     Discover yourself
This is definitely the toughest challenge in life for anyone. Take some time and think about the things that you really like to do, things you used to enjoy, your hobbies, your heart’s desires, goals and dreams. If we are spending too much time to fit into everyone else’s perception, we will eventually forget who we really are. So, by all means, be a good daughter/wife/friend/mother; but be yourself and realize your own potential first.
As they say, you are responsible for the talent that has been entrusted to you.

2)     Overcome your fears
Everyone has their fears, their weaknesses and their selfishness in spite of how much experience, talent or confidence they have. Let it be..  Just go out of your comfort zone, start something new, take risk and do something that you have never done before. 
Remember the quote: ’’Today’’ is what you did and thought yesterday, and ’’tomorrow’’ is what you do and think today

3)     Keep your old friends
I have felt that staying connected to people from my past is an important happiness booster. In each stage of our lives, we would have had great friends and great experiences, but when we move to the next stage, we find it difficult to stay connected to them. It is sad that usually in the hierarchy of relationships, we keep friendships at the bottom. Family, children, romantic partner all these comes first. But remember good friends are hard to come by. So don’t lose one just because we are lazy and egoistic to get in touch.

4)     Learn to Relax
Probably most of the women especially the perfectionists find it very difficult. There is no need to micromanage every single thing happening around us (unless it is rocket science). Few unfolded clothes or untidy dishes will not bring the world down. So accept things as they are and let go of your expectations. We can’t move on if we are stressed about little things all the time and don’t know how to relax.

5)     Be kind
Open your heart through acts of caring and compassion for both nature and all of humanity. It can be a small gesture as simple as a warm smile to a stranger, a kind word or positive remark to the office boy, a pat on the head for a street dog. We never know what kind of day that person is having and that smile might just make their day a whole lot nicer.
And, No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.

Monday, January 05, 2015

Wishlist for the New year :)

It's a brand New Year and I thought I MUST sneak in to this ignored space at-least now. First and foremost, Wish you and your loved ones a Very Happy and Prosperous New Year 2015 !  May the new year bring to you everything your heart's desire and let the coming year be filled with magic and dreams and good madness.. :)

Although, theoretically, any day can be a new start, there is always an excitement in the air when the old calendar gets replaced by the new - isn't it? We all resolve(at-least mentally) to be that better person we always wanted to be.. Even-though, in most cases, we hardly stand by them for a week/month, and yeh I am no exception ;) However, does it prevent me from reflecting on some changes that I really want in this year - stuff that can give me a sense of excitement and fulfillment? Definitely No.  So here is my wish list for the year..

1) Read, Learn , Make
    I have a huge backlog of "to-read" books and "to-take" courses in my wish list and I am planning to clear them one by one. Planning to complete 1 book a month and at least 2 courses this year. And need to remind myself to make some art - write or draw or build or grow new stuff - all those small things that makes me happy

2) Pick a few good habits
    I had complained about my wardrobe item's obsession to be size zero and for some reason they are doing it with a vengeance now. So I don't have an option other than to shed those extra pounds and any delay is going to warrant a complete wardrobe replacement. I know this is the toughest challenge given my crazy eating habits and laziness. Some small steps that I'm planning to take are
 1) Drink at least 2 litres of water daily
 2) Eat 3 proper meals a day n not their chocolate/snack substitutes
 3) Include 4-5 servings of fruits n vegetables daily
 4) Exercise/walk at least 5 days a week

3) Take a vacation
   Of late, although I have traveled (rather shuttled between places) a lot, there has never been a real vacation or a relaxed trip. In fact, even our honeymoon trip is pending even after 2 years!!! So I really wish to make at least one long vacation this year and yeh short ones are always welcome :)

4) And for this abstract one
Try, try out everything out there that interests me (yes I have a long list here)
Experiment – some fail, some work. Learn and move on, to another one

Finally, whatever is in the list, It's certain that we make those things happen which is something that we really, really want. And I hope, somewhere in the next year, I will surprise myself :) 

It is said that to heighten the chances of succeeding with your resolutions, make sure to tell lots of people what you are doing. I would be happy to find someone with the same or similar resolutions to be my change-buddy - we can support one another as we go through the process. Anyone?

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

The importance of Today

                                                          Source: http:// Asja, CC BY 2.0,

"What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it"

I read this quote and was thinking about it for a long time. We all know life is not endless and the no of days in it are very much limited. Still why do we pretend as if it is unlimited and so much time is left to do all we love to do? Most of the time we dream of some imaginary point in future when we have sorted out all our issues and problems to start "living"!

Earlier in the day, I was doing some case studies and came across innumerable real life stories of people in their 20's and 30's or even younger who fell prey to diseases like Alzheimer’s/Dementia/Cancer and what not.. Some  of them struggled and came out victorious, some succumbed, some still waiting for help.. And again another note from one of those patients that strike a chord with me is "Those of us with Alzheimer’s are better off looking at what we have left… not obsessing about that we have lost". And I guess it's true for all of us. Life throws you surprises, in all possible ways, whether you like it or not. So why wait until you are shaken up to live your life?
Start today, remember it will never come again...

Sunday, July 14, 2013

New Beginnings

I know I have been ignoring this space for long, but believe me, I really feel guilty about it. There was a time when I was totally addicted to blogging and the blogging world and struggled to come out of it. But somewhere down the lane, things changed and it became once in a blue-moon affair. But this is the place where I always came back to vent out my emotions and it kind of recorded my life events and feelings. Many people came into my life only because of this small space and have affected my life in ways I would have never expected. So I felt it's unfair not to record it here when another important turning point happened in my life...

Some of you who knows me outside of this blog might already know about it.  Anyways the news is that I got married!!! It's already 6 months now, but the fact remains that it's yet to sink in. Many a times we both wonder how it all happened! For me it really feels odd when I think that this person who was a complete stranger to me till a few months back, has somehow become the reason behind anything that means something in my life right now :)

And as I embark on this new journey, wish me luck and shower your blessings and good wishes please. I need lots and lots of it :)

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Peeping in

I know it's so long since I have visited this place and since I visited today 'by mistake' didn't want to leave without saying a Hi ;)

Well of late life has become very hectic and I am hardly finding time to breathe :P  But as I was telling a friend sometime back, I have always been the most creative when I have the least time. So hoping something will come up soon ;)

In the meantime, I am just posting a travelogue of a trip that we did few years back. We had posted it that time in our travel blog which is also dormant now. Even the flickr pics have taken off. Still there are many who ask us about the place and as years pass by I am finding it difficult to dig it out from my old mails. So thought of posting it here once again.

So here's the 'The famous Chimony trip' experience :)

1) Day 1 : A jungle to get lost in

2) Day 2 :Stretching the limits
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